Last night I decided to watch the movie “Hitch” for the second time on TV since I enjoyed the movie so much in my first. However, in my second trial, I realized why I fell in love with this movie, simply because it presents life expectation on love in a much realistic way from the simplest principle (i.e. Why do we fall in love?) to the most complicated principle that people have a hard time to maintain (i.e. How can I keep my love for that person going?). I picked three memorable quotes from the movie and I would like to analyze them with you all. Please share your thoughts about these manners and principles, surely, you have totally different opinions than the ones I presented here. Note that I’m not bashing the female perspective here, but I’m just explaining my point of view to you…just as you always do.
Never lie, steal, cheat, or drink. But if you must lie, lie in the arms of the one you love. If you must steal, steal away from bad company. If you must cheat, cheat death. And if you must drink, drink in the moments that take your breath away.
I decided to choose this one as the first one because it is so realistic to real life, yet people don’t realize that at all. One of the things that women complain about men is they tend “not to tell the truth” in every single moment they share together, neglecting the fact that what the man is trying to do is to keep her happy, protect her from harm, and shielding her from any negative thoughts that might arouse in her mind. Simply because, men HATE arguments or debates in interpersonal relationships (sure, they like to debate in politics and in sports) but in terms of relationships they try to avoid them because they NEVER win. Seriously, girls, how many times have you believed your man’s words or at least consider his point of view…I will guess very seldom (or in the other hand, some women are so gullible that they believe the obvious, harmful lies). Back to the quote, the “cheating death” line is a good one, because if we are really in love with our partners than we have to survive and enjoy our lives as much possible, so they can enjoy the life with us too.
So how does it happen, great love? Nobody knows... but what I can tell you is that it happens in the blink of an eye. One moment you're enjoying your life, and the next you're wondering how you ever lived without them.
This is so true. One of things that I notice when I explore female blogs is that they always complain that the right guy hasn’t showed up yet, or they don’t know what to do to get the right guy in. Honey, if you always think like that…then you will never find true love. Simply because true love is always unexpected and you don't really know when it is going to hit you. But when in does, you will know, simply because you will start “enjoy life even more” and you will want to maintain that love for the rest of your life and “wonder how you ever lived without him.” I’m not saying that you jus have tot lay there and wait for the man to swoop you from your feet, because, we all know that will never happen; however, you need to make efforts for that love to exist…and I mean realistic efforts, away from the false hope syndrome that most women get trapped into.
I'm a guy. Since when do we get anything right the first time?
Exactly, men aren’t as perfect as women when it comes to relationships (although this might not be always the case). Women tend to be perfectionists when it comes to relationships, thus, any mistake the man might commit, a catastrophic explosion results. So, some women lack patience with their partners; they expect their men to behave like noble princes and be able to maintain their happiness all the time. Well, sorry to break the news for you hun, but princes also make mistakes (you will be surprised how many times that it takes for the fairytales prince to get the job right via trial-and-error). Thus, if you want to maintain that love, then, you will have to see your man in every single step…just like your baby.
Make sure to read Adorra's comment below as she points well-addressed thoughts.